The Original Post
I [19F] am a sophomore in college. Until last semester my parents were paying for about 3/4 of my tuition and my housing. However they insisted I used the Life360 app showing my location to them at all times. It wasnt optimal but I figured its up to them since theyre paying for me.
Over the holidays however my dad and I had a huge argument because I changed my major from Biology to Nursing. He told me I was throwing away a bigger opportunity but I feel like i can help more people this way.
Since then Ive had to start working two jobs and take out multiple student loans. I pay for everything now, my parents give me $0.
Anyways, last weekend I went on a roadtrip to another state and my mom started texting me non stop, demanding to know why i was in another state. I had forgotten about the tracking app at this point. I realised thats how they knew and I just deleted the app.
Then came the calls from both my parents, both of them saying how dangerous it is for me to not be tracked by them all the time. I told them Im paying for my own life now, i value my privacy and I dont feel comfortable with the app.
This has really infuriated my dad and upset my mom because she thinks Im trying to cut them off completely or something.
They said if I dont turn it back on, that Im not welcome at Thanksgiving this year.
AITA?
What Reddit Said
Reddit users overwhelmingly supported the college student in this situation. Most commenters pointed out the obvious hypocrisy of parents who cut financial support but still demand control. The top comment highlighted how the parents were actually the ones doing the cutting off, not their daughter.
Moreover, Redditors emphasized that the parents’ behavior was manipulative and controlling. Many noted that at 19 years old and financially independent, she has every right to privacy. The Thanksgiving ultimatum particularly angered commenters, who saw it as emotional manipulation.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This case perfectly illustrates how parents tracking location after cutting tuition represents a clear double standard. The parents want control without responsibility, which Reddit found unacceptable. This is classic family conflict where financial independence should equal personal autonomy.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (15,276 upvotes, 2,395 comments)