Partner Expects Gas Tank Filled Before Work Every Sunday
The Original Post
Using a throwaway so itâs not linked to my main.
My partner works Sunday evenings. I donât. They tend to sleep until 15-30 minutes before they need to be at work. Theyâve recently been asking if I can fill up their car with gas before they go to work on sundays because they donât have time to get ready for work, get gas, and get to work on time.
For a while, I was doing it because it wasnât much of a bother for me. I would take their car and go to the gas station and get snacks or drinks or go to Dunkin and get a coffee. I would also sometimes take the car while they were asleep and get gas and go to the grocery store because I had to get groceries anyways. They also didnât ask every week, just most. Iâve also told them they should fill up before Sunday so it isnât such a rush. Or wake up earlier. They said they would try. But I also didnât mind doing it if I had a reason to go out.
It snowed last night through today where we live. I had no plans to go out because I donât like driving in the snow unless I truly have to. I went to the grocery store yesterday before the snow started and I stocked up on all my drinks and snacks so I wouldnât have to drive in the snow. I was also still in my pajamas because I was looking forward to a comfy day inside.
They asked me if I could fill their car up with gas again today. I said no, I donât like driving in the snow especially in a car thatâs not mine. They said itâs not far to the gas station and they had to get ready for work. I repeated that I donât feel comfortable driving their car in the snow and I donât need to go out for anything so I wonât do it.
They were upset because I refused to go out and fill up the car with gas. They left for work upset and didnât even say goodbye and later texted me that they couldnât fully finish getting ready for work and were a few minutes late to work because they had to stop to get gas.
AITA for not filling the car with gas before my partner went to work even though I have been doing it often in the past?
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly sided with OP on this one. Most users were baffled by the partner’s entitled behavior and poor planning skills. However, commenters were particularly critical of the partner’s manipulative response to being told “no.”
The top comment perfectly captured Reddit’s sentiment by questioning why the partner couldn’t fill up after work instead of expecting their significant other to handle basic adult responsibilities. Moreover, users pointed out that sleeping until the last possible minute is a choice, not an unavoidable circumstance.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This situation perfectly illustrates how one partner expects gas tank filled while refusing to take responsibility for basic adulting. Reddit recognized this as a classic case of relationship boundaries being tested through unreasonable demands and entitled behavior.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (6,421 upvotes, 969 comments)