Preschool Teacher Using Child’s Clothes on Other Students
The Original Post
So my daughter started school last Wednesday, and the teacher asked us to send pull-ups, wipes, and a change of clothes for her. I sent quite a few pull-ups, and a brand new pack of wipes, and an outfit as requested. Only the bottoms for her outfit came back, and I saw another student from her class, wearing her shirt when I went to pick her up. Now, I donāt mind if the teacher needs to use some of my daughterās pull-ups for the other kids, or even some of her wipes. Iāll send extra of those things if needed because I understand what itās like to be the parent that canāt provide that. However, when it comes to her clothes, Iām not OK with sharing. For starters, if they get sent home on a kid (like the shirt did) then thereās a chance that the school wonāt get it back, and clothes are really expensive and I canāt afford to replace them like that. It all pretty much boils down to the fact that my daughter doesnāt really have that many clothes to begin with, so I canāt really afford for them to get ruined, or for them not to get sent back. So, Iām just curious if it would make me the asshole if I talk to her teacher the next day that she goes to school, and tell her that Iām not comfortable with her using her clothes for other children.
What Reddit Said
Redditors were absolutely outraged on OP’s behalf. The top comment called the teacher’s behavior “so inappropriate” and emphasized that schools should contact parents directly if a child needs clothes. Moreover, many users with childcare experience chimed in to confirm this violated standard protocols.
However, commenters also worried about practical concerns. What if OP’s daughter had an accident and needed her own clothes? In fact, several users pointed out that expensive clothing items might never be returned once sent home with other families.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This preschool teacher using child clothes inappropriately crosses clear professional boundaries. Most Redditors advised speaking to both the teacher and administration immediately. This represents a classic case of parenting issues where reasonable requests meet unprofessional behavior.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (2,293 upvotes, 266 comments)