The Original Post
I’m in my 40s, I have 3 teenage daughters, all triplets, and I fucking hate my life, all they and their mother do is complain and complain and complain, no matter what I do for them or what I get them it’s never enough, my wife developed a medical condition a few years ago and she can’t work so she’s a stay at home wife now and she refuses to get any other job to help me out because it’s s man’s job to support his family, I’m working literally every single day and I do multiple 12 hours a week, I’m exhausted and depressed most of the time, my daughters “joke” about how lazy I am when I watch tv or do anything that’s not working, sure they tell me they love me sometimes but most of the time they just take and take and complain about every little thing, we’re in debt, I’m fucking tired and I’m drowning, I hate my fucking job but can’t quit because it’s impossible to find anything because we’re living in the middle of nowhere, I don’t get any support from anyone. I don’t even get to have intimacy with my wife because of her medical condition. Sometimes I wish I go out like my father in law, a few years ago he got a heart attack and died during his sleep, recently I’ve been wishing that on myself just to die peacefully. But for some reason I still care and I still love my girls, at times they can be very sweet and I used to adore them when they were younger but I’m just exhausted and mentally done right now. The only reason I’m still here is because I know if I end myself my daughters are gonna end up in the streets and I don’t want that.
What Reddit Said
Redditors overwhelmingly sympathized with this burned-out father’s situation. Most commenters urged him to take control by setting firm boundaries with his family. The top response suggested he sit down with his wife and daughters to explain the reality of their financial situation.
However, many pointed out that his wife’s approach was problematic. If she truly cannot work due to her medical condition, she should apply for disability benefits. Moreover, commenters noted that three teenage daughters are perfectly capable of helping with household responsibilities instead of mocking their exhausted father.
Several Redditors emphasized that this wasn’t sustainable long-term. They encouraged him to stop “rolling over” and establish consequences for his family’s ungrateful behavior. The consensus was clear: he needs to advocate for himself before he reaches a breaking point.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: this father’s feelings are completely valid, and his family is taking advantage of his sacrifice. This represents a classic case of family drama where one person carries the entire burden. Reddit’s advice was unanimous – he must establish boundaries immediately and demand his family contribute meaningfully to their household, whether through work, chores, or basic gratitude for his efforts to keep them afloat.
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