The Original Post
I live with a roommate who came home late and said they had forgotten their wallet at work. They asked if they could just grab some of my food “this one time.”
I said no. I don’t like lending food it’s not just money, it’s that I plan my meals and buy specific things for myself. They got really annoyed and said I was being “petty” and “not a friend.”
They ended up ordering takeout but kept sulking for the rest of the night. The next day, they told our other roommate I was being selfish, and now everyone’s giving me side eyes.
I don’t feel like I did anything wrong. I’m happy to help in emergencies, but forgetting your wallet isn’t really an emergency.
AITA?
EDIT: There are some things I forgot yall. First I always ask them if the need any groceries in the house when I go shopping I just ask to be paid back for it and they decline every time. Second I told him we have bread for toast or a sandwich and he decided to order takeout. I am getting absolutely chewed up in the comments😂 but that’s ok I love hearing everyone’s opinions and reactions and seeing more outcomes I could have or should have done and will consider doing in the future.
What Reddit Said
Reddit was deeply divided on this roommate food drama. Many users immediately called out the suspicious timing – if the roommate could afford takeout, why not just pay back the groceries? However, others felt OP was being unnecessarily stingy over what seemed like a one-time request.
The tide shifted dramatically when OP revealed crucial details in the comments. In fact, OP had offered bread and sandwich ingredients, which the roommate rejected in favor of ordering takeout. Moreover, this roommate apparently has a pattern of borrowing things and never paying back.
The Verdict
The final consensus leaned toward NTA (Not the Asshole). This roommate forgot wallet situation exposed manipulative behavior rather than genuine need. The fact that expensive takeout was affordable but simple groceries weren’t suggests this was about getting free food, not emergency help. This is classic roommate drama where boundaries matter more than keeping the peace.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (1,066 upvotes, 495 comments)