The Original Post
My wife and I have a lovely relationship, she is my best friend and I wouldn’t trade her for the world. That being said, the sex is… lacking. I am a decently well endowed guy and my wife is tiny which leads to us going slow and having basic, routine missionary sex each time. I love her, but she only is ever interested in slow and gentle intimacy and I just crave more. For a lack of any better way to put it, we only ever make love, and I really really miss just fucking. I wanna be rough and sweaty again. I’ve spoken to her about and she has tried, but it’s just not her. Every time I try to pick up the pace or try a different position, she redirects back to the same old slow missionary. I love her more than anything, but every time we have sex I just wish I could be doing more.
What Reddit Said
Reddit’s response was surprisingly educational rather than judgmental. Most commenters focused on the physical compatibility issue, with many suggesting practical solutions like different techniques or products. However, the most upvoted comments shifted the conversation toward whether the wife was actually being properly satisfied first.
Several experienced Redditors pointed out a crucial detail: the wife might not be fully aroused or satisfied before penetration begins. In fact, many suggested that women often need multiple orgasms before they’re comfortable with rougher sex. Moreover, commenters emphasized that rushing into intense activity without proper buildup can be uncomfortable or painful.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus focused on foreplay and communication rather than incompatibility. Reddit determined this isn’t necessarily a case of being sexually incompatible with wife, but rather a need for better technique and patience. This represents a common issue in relationship advice where the solution involves understanding your partner’s needs first. The verdict: focus on her satisfaction before expecting her to accommodate his preferences.
Original post from r/TrueOffMyChest (1,665 upvotes, 205 comments)