Single Person Refuses Bunk Bed in Airbnb With Couples
The Original Post
For my friendās birthday she wanted our friend group to go away for the weekend for 2 nights. We are a group of 6 girls and she said that partners are welcome so there are now 10 of us (4 couples and 2 singles). She organised the Airbnb and we are dividing the cost equally between everyone.
There are 6 rooms: 2 rooms with a double bed, 2 rooms with 2 single beds and 2 rooms with 2 bunk beds. None of the rooms have ensuites and there are 3 bathrooms in the airbnb.
For deciding who sleeps in what room, myself and my friend that organised the trip (both the single people) asked can we pull names from a hat to see who sleeps where to keep it fair. (Myself and my friend have decided to sleep in the same room so it will be 5 names picked out of a hat)
Two of the couples are happy with this arrangement but two of the couples donāt agree with it.
One of the couples said that they are paying more so should get a double room but I canāt understand that way of thinking. They arenāt paying more, they are each paying the same amount for 1 adult as I am. A couple is not 1 unit, they are still 2 people that will be using the shared bathrooms, 2 people that will be taking up space in the kitchen and living areas.
I went on a trip recently and had to sleep on a bunk bed and had the worst sleep on it. I have slept on a double bed since I was 14 years old. I donāt think itās fair that just because I donāt have a boyfriend I should automatically get the worst sleeping arrangement. Especially as we are all paying the same amount.
I canāt stop thinking about the situation and I am feeling sad and upset that they would be happy with automatically putting me in the worst bed due to not being in a couple.Ā I just want it to be a fair decision.
Am I the asshole for not just offering to take one of the rooms with the bunk beds?
Edit: me and my friend will be sharing a room so it would be 5 names going into the hat. Also to be clear, I did not book the Airbnb.
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly sided against OP with a clear YTA verdict. Most commenters pointed out a fundamental flaw in her logic about fairness. The top comment explained that couples sharing double beds actually get less space per person than a single person taking an entire bed.
However, Redditors acknowledged her frustration about always getting worse accommodations as a single person. Many shared similar experiences from their own group trips. In fact, several commenters suggested she should have spoken up during the booking process if bed arrangements mattered so much to her.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is the Asshole (YTA). Reddit determined that demanding a double bed as a single person bunk bed airbnb situation was actually unfair to others. This is a classic case of friendship drama where good intentions about fairness backfired. Moreover, the math simply didn’t work in OP’s favor – couples splitting doubles get less space per person than singles taking entire beds.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (2,204 upvotes, 1,805 comments)