Sister’s Fiancé Invited Himself on Family Trip – Reddit D…
The Original Post
My husband, son, sister, and I are planning a short Florida trip. My sister’s fiancé wants to come but my husband and him don’t get along. I will be 5 months pregnant by then and don’t want tension on a trip that’s supposed to be fun and relaxing.
We’re also part of the same religion and since they aren’t married yet my husband and I would be responsible for chaperoning which we’re not comfortable with. I also don’t feel like that’s a sibling responsibility. I think it should be up to theparents not us. Mind you you he doesn’t even live in the same state its a long distance relationship. I even told him it would probably be different if the whole family went but he didnt care.
My sister already told him my husband wouldn’t be okay with it and asked him not to bring it up but he messaged me directly on Instagram asking to come (1st message he pretty much said told me he was buying his ticket and coming anyway but my sister deleted it. I saw a preview under my notifications). I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that because we only booked 1 hotel room and suggested he plan a separate trip with her instead. He got upset and said he feels left out of the family and told us have fun because this is probably the last trip i will have with my sister before he moves her out of the state. Again, I told him to plan a trip with the whole family. He just stresses me out, pretty much a man child with no boundaries and a short fuse.
AITAH
What Reddit Said
Redditors overwhelmingly supported OP’s decision to exclude the boundary-crossing fiancé. Many were shocked by the religious chaperoning requirement for two adults. However, the most concerning response focused on the fiancé’s manipulative threat about this being the “last trip” with her sister.
Comments highlighted multiple red flags in the fiancé’s behavior. His lack of boundaries was evident when he messaged OP directly after being told no. Moreover, his emotional manipulation and threats to isolate the sister raised serious concerns about the relationship’s future.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). When a sister’s fiancé invited himself on a family trip and responded with manipulation, OP was right to stand firm. This situation reveals classic toxic relationship patterns that extend beyond simple family drama.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (1,313 upvotes, 549 comments)