Sister Won’t Stop Mommyjacking Every Family Conversation
The Original Post
My sister has 2 kids, 4 and 1. Ever since she got pregnant about 5 years ago, she pivots every conversation to pregnancy, breast feeding, her kids, etc. We have a family group chat and it happens any time I try to text about something, no matter how important. When people are responding to me, she brings up something about being a mother and everyone drops what I was saying and moves on to her.
It’s been annoying me for a while. This has happened for pretty much any conversation that happens. It only doesn’t happen if she is asleep or not on her phone, so that’s not often. She did it after I got engaged, when I was talking about my new job, when I am talking about my health, when I bought a house, etc.
At the start of this week I found out intense restructuring is happening at the company I work at and my job situation is up in the air. I’ve obviously been very stressed about it and wanted to vent/get advice from family members who have been in the workforce longer than I have.
After no messages all day, I text the group chat. I sent a couple messages back and forth with a couple people in the group. Then my sister sends a picture of her baby talking about how he wants some milk. Conversations then turns to be about the baby and l just got really upset because it happened once again especially because I could tell by the lighting in the picture that it was taken hours earlier.
I privately texted her asking “for once can a conversation be about me without you mommyjacking it?” She told me I need to grow up and that not everything is about me. She apparently then called our mom to tell her about it and my mom told me I was an asshole to send that text and that I need to “lighten up”. I’m assuming word got around because now no one will respond to anything I say in the group chat.
AITA for telling my sister to stop mommyjacking every conversation and to let me talk about my life?
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly supported OP in this family drama. Most users were thrilled to learn the term “mommyjacking” and immediately recognized the behavior. However, many pointed out that OP might need to change her approach to family communication.
The top comment celebrated the new vocabulary, calling it the perfect description for narcissistic parenting behavior. Meanwhile, other Redditors offered practical advice about seeking individual support instead of relying on group conversations.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This is a classic case where a sister’s constant mommyjacking behavior finally pushed someone to their breaking point. Reddit recognized that family dynamics can be incredibly frustrating when one person consistently dominates conversations. Moreover, OP’s timing was particularly poor since she needed support during a stressful work situation.
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