I had my son when I was sixteen and I had so much love for him, but I let my inner demons get the best of me and it caused me to lose him when he was 11. I went 2 years without seeing him, and then I ultimately got granted with visitation rights.

Our relationship was extremely rocky in the beginning. He did not want to live with me at all, and I can understand why. He spent about a year never talking to me during our visitation time. He warmed up to me slowly, and I finally got him back to live with me a few days before his 16th birthday. He’s been with me full time for a year, and things have been much better. We’ve had our ups and downs, but we have a pretty solid relationship.

My son and his girlfriend have been dating since before he came to live with me. She’s a very sweet girl, and I do allow her to come over. I do work A LOT sometimes up to 16 hours a day, so he’s home alone often. I’m aware on how teens think and behave, so we’ve talked about safe sex so many times. I just didn’t want him to end up in my situation.

He was so distant over the holidays. I had 5 days off and things planned, I even tried to invite his girlfriend over so we could celebrate Christmas together but he didn’t want to. Christmas day he left a note that she was pregnant. Internally I was spiraling. I felt like I failed him. It is HARD being a teen parent. HARD. I spoke with his girlfriend and she was sobbing. Apparently she had been feeling ill for MONTHS but was hoping it’d just go away. When she finally told her parents, they decided that she should live with her aunt. She’s been staying at my house for about 3 days with her parents knowledge, but they are not interested in talking to her. I mean…they’re just kids. She’s not even halfway done with highschool. I just got my baby back, i’ve been working so hard so I can keep him grounded, and he’s having a baby? 💔 How can I even help them navigate this situation? We need help. Lots of it.