The Original Post
im a mtf who came out to my family at 14 and started to medically transition at 16. it was bc my physical dysphoria was pretty bad and i ended upstarving myself to try and prevent my puberty. as well i felt a bad longing to be a woman for some reason. i dont know why but that was one of the reasons i transitioned too.
currently i am 18 and i do well in life, like i got a ged and am in college, i have a hobby, but tbh i feel like maybe im should just be a normal guy. like i never have used womens spaces, and the only feminine things i really do is makeup and the way i dress / style my hair. as well mostly my hobbies and interests are the things of an autistic young man (and i have aspergers). i dont rly feel bad when i get called a guy bc i understand i look weird but like deep down it just gives me a hurt that i can never be a woman so like why dont i just be a guy.
idk tbh. i guess i just dont feel quite like a trans woman and feel weird about it now since I’ve changed my legal gender marker and come out to my family. the only thing i still have is im very self conscious about my body and looks but i feel like i am probably just vain
What Reddit Said
Redditors overwhelmingly supported OP’s journey of self-discovery. The top comments encouraged her to embrace being a feminine man if that felt right. Many emphasized that gender expression doesn’t have to fit rigid categories.
However, users also stressed that there’s no rush to make any decisions. They pointed out that enjoying makeup and feminine clothing doesn’t require any specific label. In fact, several commenters shared that throwing away labels entirely might be the healthiest approach.
The Verdict
The consensus was clear: OP should focus on being authentic rather than fitting into boxes. This resonated with many readers who struggle with similar questions about identity. Reddit’s advice centered on the idea that a trans woman regrets transitioning doesn’t mean she’s broken or wrong – it means she’s human and still figuring things out. This is a powerful reminder that identity exploration is a lifelong journey, not a destination.
Original post from r/TrueOffMyChest (1,717 upvotes, 499 comments)