I’ll try to keep this update short. I wanted to say thank you to everyone who took the time to comment and message me. For those who didn’t read the original post I made, I will link it here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/1nywu56/my\_36m\_wife\_34f\_fell\_deep\_into\_conspiracy/](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1nywu56/my_36m_wife_34f_fell_deep_into_conspiracy/)

Some of you helped me accept a reality I had been avoiding for a long time: my soon to be ex-wife was not going to get better, and I had to act to protect my daughter. I also want to specifically thank those who pointed me to the QAnon Casualties sub. Reading other families’ stories and seeing how similar the patterns were was incredibly validating. It helped me understand that this wasn’t something I could love or wait my way out of.

I took the advice of some commenters and started documenting my ex’s neglect of our daughter, her racism and extreme beliefs and reached out to a divorce lawyer. I checked on our joint bank accounts as advised and discovered that she had been withdrawing large sums of money from a joint account we opened early in our marriage for family vacations etc and that we had discussed using to eventually set up a college fund for our daughter when she was born. When I confronted her, she initially denied taking the money. When I demanded she show me where the money went, she went on a long rant about “creating a better world.”

She admitted she had donated money to organizations like TPUSA, claiming they would “create better schools” and “keep kids safe.” She had also spent a significant amount on designer handbags, shoes, and clothing that she had hidden from me. The craziest thing is she was also being scammed by someone she met through some royal gossip subreddit who claimed to have hired a private investigator to expose Meghan Markle. Apparently, this person would send her negative articles about Meghan Markle and claim that the private investigator had discovered this information and sent it to the press and my wife would send more money. She told me all of this as if it were completely reasonable and saw nothing wrong with it.

I told her I was filing for divorce and at first she thought I was joking but then exploded at me and began throwing things while ranting about me breaking up the family. A glass cup she threw hit me in the head. I left the house bleeding and went to my neighbor’s, who called the police. She had trashed the kitchen by the time the police showed up and they arrested her after I explained what happened.

I applied for and was granted a Domestic Violence Restraining Order, along with temporary custody of my daughter. My wife currently has supervised visitation only. She is facing a misdemeanor criminal charge related to the domestic battery incident, which is being handled in criminal court alongside the ongoing divorce proceedings. She is currently living with a former coworker, and her family has reached out to express support for me and my daughter.

I am in the middle of divorce proceedings, and my lawyer believes I have a strong case for sole custody. This isn’t how I ever imagined things ending, but I’m grateful I listened to the advice here when I did. My priority now is my daughter’s safety, stability, and emotional well-being. Thank you to everyone who helped push me to act.