The Original Post
My wife broke my heart on Friday, we have been married for 13 years have 3 kids age 12, 10 and 5.
5 years ago I discovered that she was texting a guy on Facebook the messages weren’t just casual whey were very flirty and emotional including,I love you and good morning/ good night,
I chose to believe her as she denied ever meeting in person with this man, and over the last 5 years everything has been great I would say better than ever that was until last week when I opened a Snapchat account to message with one of my friends that moved out of state and is his preferred method of messaging
After a few days of use I started adding some of my other contacts and noticed I couldn’t add my wife’s number and also couldn’t invite her as if she had blocked me so the next day we were talking and asked if I could see her phone I checked and o see if Snapchat was installed which it was not but when I went to the App Store I saw it had been recently searched and had been installed before
So I installed the app and logged in since she had the password already saved on her phone
When I log in I see she not only has an account but has been saving pictures of the same man she had been messaging dating back to 2019
She got very defensive at first saying there’s nothing wrong as she was only saving them because she thought he was attractive, there were no nude photos but there was close to 100 pictures of him from 2019 all the way to February this year
I am heartbroken and don’t trust her anymore I don’t know if I should believe her or really what to do
The more I think about the situation the more pissed off I get and I’m just so disappointed in her
She never deleted the pictures from our last big fight in 2021 and I don’t know wether to believe her that she ever lost contact with this person
Right now we are not talking as I asked for space and time, right now I just keep thinking about my kids
Is my marriage salvable?
I need some help please any tips or people who have gone through something like this would really help me
What Reddit Said
Redditors were overwhelmingly unsympathetic to the wife’s behavior. Most commenters immediately recognized this as a continuation of the emotional affair from five years ago. They pointed out that saving 100+ photos of another man while blocking your spouse is far beyond innocent attraction.
However, many focused on the timeline aspect. The top comment emphasized that this affair has been ongoing for seven years total. Moreover, Redditors noted the deliberate deception—searching for Snapchat, installing it secretly, and blocking her husband showed clear intent to hide the relationship.
The consensus was clear: this marriage may not be salvageable. Most advised the husband to consider separation, noting that staying together “for the kids” in a loveless marriage does more harm than good.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: the wife’s behavior constitutes ongoing infidelity that has destroyed trust. This wife emotional affair snapchat photos situation represents years of deception and emotional betrayal. Reddit firmly believes the husband deserves better than a partner who maintains secret relationships while lying to his face. This is a clear case of infidelity that falls into serious relationship drama territory.
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