The Original Post
I found out that my husband cheated on me with his friend after she got divorced. We were married for 2 years and I really couldn’t believe it from him because of how much he tells me he loves me. I just started my major and he offered to finance my studies. I watched him work his ass off to build his company and finance my dream. I stopped having sex with him all together, lying about being too depressed and I even stopped talking to him all together. I am astounded he put up with me for 3 years to be honest. I put an IUD in case something happened because I never want anything to bind me to him. I think deep inside he knew why I changed so much but he was lying to himself and didn’t want to see.
Their affair lasted a couple of months until he ended it because *that wasn’t who he was.* I caught it very early because he is a bad liar. With me refusing him time and time again he rekindled his affair several more times, always ending it *because that wasn’t who he was.* I found my dream starting job with great entry level and a small studio apartment close by. I told him I was leaving and why. I printed all his texts with her. I told him I knew he used my bed and that she used my shower afterwards. I told him he probably knew deep down this day was coming because he kept asking her if she told me something. I told him I used protection because I knew how much he wanted children and the idea of breeding with him made my skin crawl. I told him thanks for being my meal ticket and that I haven’t loved him in three years(it’s a lie I am still madly in love with him, how pathetic am I?). It was when he took me out for a romantic dinner to celebrate my new job. I left and went to live with my friend and switched off my phone. I will use my new work phone and only keep my old one until the divorce is final.
Next I will tell everyone why we are getting a divorce and I don’t care if they say I used him. I am new to Reddit so be nice to me
What Reddit Said
Redditors were largely supportive of OP’s calculated revenge strategy. Many praised her for turning the tables on her cheating husband. However, some expressed concern about the emotional toll of living a lie for three years.
The community particularly appreciated her strategic thinking in securing her financial future before leaving. Moreover, commenters noted that her husband’s repeated affair cycles showed his true character. In fact, most agreed that using him financially was justified given his betrayal.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP was justified in how she handled discovering her husband’s infidelity. This wife financially used cheating husband as payback for his betrayal, and Reddit largely approved. While some questioned the emotional cost, most agreed her strategic approach was brilliant. This represents a unique case of infidelity revenge where the wronged party gained financial independence before leaving.
Original post from r/TrueOffMyChest (2,522 upvotes, 229 comments)