The Original Post
My husband cheated on me with a co worker and when it came to light I chose to stay. I love my life and I feel content. I don’t want to change anything about it. My children. My home. My work. My neighbors. Our friends. I did not want to compromise anything. Divorce was only an option for a moment until I realized that I didn’t love him to be hurt about his cheating. Since I was a teenager and I started be interested in boys, I don’t remember ever being interested in anyone who wasn’t interested in me in return. Like my love has always been conditional. If a guy rejected me my feelings disappeared with his rejection. It maybe a big flaw and as my sister said, may have deprived me of feeling real, all consuming love but it sure helped me now. When I found out he cheated, I immediately started picturing him with her. Touching her, making love to her, he wasn’t mine anymore and every feeling I felt towards him disappeared. Both the good but also the bad feelings.
People think I forgave him because I loved him so much but I don’t think I would be able to forgive someone that I love. My heart would not have taken it. Of course, I don’t tell anyone that, let them think what they want. All is good.
I want to stay anonymous. Thank you for letting me vent here
What Reddit Said
Redditors were surprisingly supportive of OP’s pragmatic approach. Many praised her self-awareness and honesty about her emotional detachment. The top comment highlighted how her situation perfectly exemplified that “the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference.”
However, some users expressed concern about the long-term implications. They worried about her ability to maintain intimacy and questioned whether this arrangement was truly sustainable. Moreover, practical advice emerged about protecting herself legally and medically given the changed dynamic.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP made the right choice for her circumstances. This case shows that a wife stayed after husband cheated for deeply personal reasons that don’t fit typical narratives. Reddit respected her brutal honesty and practical approach to marriage issues. In fact, many found her emotional clarity refreshing compared to typical infidelity stories filled with anguish and drama.
Original post from r/TrueOffMyChest (4,034 upvotes, 271 comments)