I haven’t dated in four years. It took a lot of courage for me to finally try again.

I matched with a guy on SparkRizz last week. He seemed totally normal. He is 55, polite, and we had a really good vibe over text. I was actually excited to meet him.

We met for coffee this morning.

I kid you not, we barely sat down before he started talking about his divorce. I tried to be nice. I nodded. I said, “Yeah, that sucks.”

But then he kept going. He literally pulled out his phone to show me angry texts from his ex-wife. He started complaining about her lawyer, her spending, and how she turned the kids against him.

I sat there looking at my coffee and realized: He doesn’t even see me. He didn’t ask me a single question. To him, I was just a pair of ears. I was just a trash can for him to dump his problems into.

I interrupted him and said, “Look, I’m sorry you’re going through this. But I’m looking for a date, not a therapy session.”

And I left.

I feel mean. I feel rude. But I also feel like…it is always women’s job to fix broken men. They come onto dating apps even though they clearly haven’t processed their past.